Sunday, August 23, 2020


Hello, my friends.
I need to vent to you all today. 

I have been part of the cozy community for 7 years. In a way it doesn't feel that long. Though, in another way it feels like I've known most of you all my life.

When I was new and still finding my place, my voice, I was a little nervous that I wouldn't fit in. I didn't think I was joining a community, I thought I was just going to meet a few people that loved cozy mysteries as much as I do. But joining a community is exactly what it turned out to be. 

I have to say I have never felt so welcomed in all my life. Everyone was and is so friendly. I couldn't get over the warmth in which I was recieved. In a lot of ways it was like coming home again. 


So, for 7 years, I have enjoyed each and every friendship made. Readers, authors, editors, agents . . . everyone has made it just so easy to feel like I belong. No. Not feel like. To know I belong. Which brings me to the point of my venting today.

Over the past few months I have gotten into watching YouTube videos. I mean the ones beyond the funny animal ones, or music videos, or concerts. I've been watching a certain style of videos in order to learn about vintage, antiques, unique, and popular items that sell. This has all been to prep myself for my new blog, Lisa Ks Fabulous Finds (I promise, it is coming soon)

I have really enjoyed watching this videos and getting to know a bit about the people who make them. Wonderfully, lovely people who show where they shop, how they sell, what they spend, and where you can buy it from them. 

Like leaving comments on Facebook, you can leave comments on the videos, and Like them, both of which I have done with enthusiasm. Some have commented back or laughed at something silly I said. So, I thought I had found another community of people that I clicked with as well. Until I reached out to communicate with them. 

For all the sweetness, kindness and fun they show on their videos, it changes real quick when you think you can actually say hi on Instagram or send them an email or reach out to them in some way. I have two now that have snubbed me. 

One because of a misunderstanding. I reached out to apologize to her and tried to explain how the misunderstanding happened and that it was exactly that, a misunderstanding, she never responded. I gave it one more try with the same outcome, so I stopped.

 The other I reached out to with concern because I hadn't seen a new video when he normally would post. I aware that some violence had been happening in the city where he lived. My email was simply to ask if he was okay. Ignored. I see a new post from him, and now know he is fine. I send him another email to apologize for overstepping some kind of bounds. I've heard back from him.


I'm used to the cozy community where after only 3 or 4 days of knowing someone, we are talking like old friends, or praying for each other with true hearts, even if we haven't seen the each other's faces, or may only know each other through FB names. 

My friend P comes to my blog every day and comments. She sends me messages and let me know about typos or other boo boos I've made. She has done that for me since before we truly knew each other.

 Even when she hardly knew me, my friend S started to message me every other day when my beloved brother Larry became ill over 4 years ago. S and I didn't message regularly at all until then. I hardly knew her, but she reached to me during one of the darkest and hardest times of my life.


So my friends. I just wanted to take this tim to thank you all. Thank you for being the people you are. Good, kind, welcoming, and a million other positive adjectives. I'm truly grateful to be apart of such a loving family of people.


I'd be interested to know if any of you have had similar experiences. If you'd like to share them here in the comments, please do. If you'd rather keep it private, leave me a message at 


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13 comments:

  1. The Cozy Community is the very best! It was about 7 years ago when I began to make friends with cozy readers and authors, and found them to be some of the most caring, genuine people I’ve ever known. I talked to Lisa on the phone once, and she is a sweetheart. All of our lives are constantly in change. Lisa is one of the most dependable people I’ve ever met in the cozy community. Sadly, some people do not share Lisa’s work ethics. My husband had the experience of calling a building contractor who had a secretary who always said he wasn’t available, and he never returned the phone calls. It must be nice to be so wealthy you don’t even bother to respond. It makes me wonder when he was a newbie and building his businesses, didn’t he find networking the key to success? I believe that talking and sharing and asking questions and answering questions—sharing each other’s knowledge builds the strongest of foundations and that is why the Cozy Community is so strong. So, don’t let the ‘other’ people upset you—you never know what they have going on in their life. That’s my mini-vent, and my two cents worth. 😊. I love ya, Lisa❣️ One of my very first cozy friends on Facebook. ❤️

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    1. Hey, Linda! Thank you for the kind words. You are one of the kindest people in the cozy community. Anyone new coming in will be very blessed to get to know you. I know what you mean about the contractor. The guy that comes to work on our AC is so rude and condescending. He talks to my sister and me like we are idiots. And he owns the business! I can't do anything about it because we rent so we take who the landlady sends out. But grrr...why do people have to be that way? I worked retail for over 25 years. If I was having a bad day, I still smiled for the customers. It's not their faults. Linda, I'm happy to say I was raised right, and I took to heart the things I learned from me parents. You're a joy to know, and I hope we know each other for another 7 years, and another 7 after that, and after that, and . . . . .

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  2. Keep being kind. Some people use the internet as a way to keep distance between them and the real world. Not everyone is so welcoming as you have been. Your strength and superpower is your kindness. Thank you for posting this and sharing your heart

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    1. Hi, Roz. Thank you so much for stopping by. Your words mean a lot to me. While I can get quite angry at times, I could never stop being kind. I came from kind parents and they taught me well. It's also everything I'd love for others in the world to be. And I want you to know, I'm going to have a t-shirt made up that says, Kindness Is My Superpower. :-)

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  3. Love you, Lisa! You’re the reason I joined the cozy community, in 2014. This year has been crazy (and I’m not reading as much as I used to) but I look forward to your blog posts, to start my day. Best of luck in your new venture. Keep doing what you love.
    Hugs, Pat T.

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    1. Oh Pat, I love you, too! You have been so wonderful to me. I'm speechless that I'm the reason you joined the cozy community. It makes the last 7 years I've dedicated to cozies all the more worth it. Thank you for the well wishes on my new venture. I'm excited to get it going! Hugs back to you my friend.

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  4. I agree that the cozy community is filled with wonderful, kind, compassionate people. I’ve enjoyed getting to know so many in community. As we start out sharing our favorite authors and books, we begin to learn about each other’s families and the members of the community become like extended family members. It’s the greatest!

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    1. Hi, Chris. Thanks for visiting my blog today.The cozy community is indeed a family. One that I feel truly blessed to be a part of.

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  5. You are so easy to like, enjoy your friendship and actually love. I am so blessed to have made your friendship through cozies. You are amazing so dont ever forget that!! Love ya sis

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    1. Thank you so much, Kay! I feel the same about you in all ways. You've been a blessing to me. Love you to, sis.

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  6. You are essential also, Lisa and I am happy to be your friend. I often look at your blogs and should comment more than I do. I'm looking forward to seeing Lisa Ks Fabulous Finds. Take care.

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    1. Thank you, Susan! I'm happy you read the blog. I don't expect everyone to comment every day. I know how busy folks are. I don't always have time to respond myself. Hopefully Lisa Ks Fabulous Finds with be up and running in about 2 weeks. Big hugs.

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  7. Lisa, I've had the same thing happen on numerous occasions. I finally have gotten older and hopefully wiser and have come to the conclusion that I am going to be ME. That's all I will be and all I want to be. I'm not going to change for the sake of someone else. You can take me for who I am or leave me - just don't slam the down on the way out. I have no room for ugliness or hatefulness in my world. No it's not all rosy here in Kay's world (far from it), but I don't have to allow such negativity into my world to add to my own problems that I can't control.

    For those that want to ignore you or not connect, then they are the losers. You are a genuine, honest and caring person that they are missing out on knowing. So my advice (that and a $1 will get you a pop), is to not worry about them. If you know your intentions and steps were in good faith and meant to do no harm, then lift your head and know you are the great person you are and walk away with a smile on your face to make the world wonder what you have been up to or want to join you in on the fun. <3
    2clowns at arkansas dot net

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